In our culture weve been trained for individual differences to stand out

In our culture we ve been trained for individual differences to stand out. So you look at each person and immediately you think brighter, dumber, older, younger, richer, poorer, and we make all these dimensional distinctions, put them into categories and treat them that way. And we get so we only see others as separate from ourselves and the ways in which they re separate. And one of the dramatic characteristics of experience is being with another person and suddenly seeing the ways they are like you, not br, br,