What can you do about approach avoid relationships

A veteran therapist proposes that people who seek intimacy and then back away from it repeatedly are unaware of being controlled by two sets of personality subselves: One set wants closeness, the other set expects rejection and abandonment, and fears too much closeness. The result is confusing approachavoid behavior cycles. The video ends with links to related videos, and to a free online selfimprovement eb lesson on how to optimize your inner and social frelationships: